Band Baja Bride :)

Pink's Wedding Post :)

Pink’s Wedding Post 🙂

Some time back I blogged about my best friend aka Pink (hereinafter the bride)  getting married. You can read the post here.

I was very excited and looking forward to attending her marriage from over two months. But, now when I look back the 3 days with her passed in a blur. I didn’t even realise and it was time for me to board the train again, this time however leaving her back.

Day 1

Me (on the left) and Pink (on the right, wearing pink) on our way to Jodhpur

Me (on the left) and Pink (on the right, wearing pink) on our way to Jodhpur.

I never knew that the wedding would be so much fun. I have enjoyed my  cousins marriage before, but Pink’s marriage was far more enjoyable. I left from  Bhopal for my hometown on 22nd after getting done with my exams. Next day,  in the wee hours of the morning, I reached the railway station to board the train  with Pink and her family for Jodhpur. We were 170 people, with everybody  either eating, laughing, sleeping or running behind kids during the entire        journey. We reached Jodhpur on the night of 23rd and went to our respective      rooms to freshen up. I was sharing the room with three of her college friends.

The resort was a wonderful and cool place. It was adjacent to lake Kailana and  is designed like a palace. The corridors were beautiful and the view from the  bride’s room was magnificent. After changing and freshening up, all the friends  and cousins of the bride got in our room and made a plan to get the groom in  with us too. Two of the friends went up to the floor where her in-laws were  staying and got back with the groom. The smile on the bride’s face was so pretty  on seeing her soon to be hubby, I was awestruck for a second. She was at first  hesitant and shy to sit next to him. On the pretext of clicking pictures, I made  her sit next to the groom.

The view of the lake from the Bride's room :)

The view of the lake from the Bride’s room.

After a whole lot of stupid and double meaning jokes, everybody departed to call it a night. However, five of us, me, Pink and three of her friends stayed up all night and talked about everything from how her first night is going to be to our old school and college days.

After a lot of convincing and forcing, the bride agreed to sit next to the groom :)

After a lot of convincing and forcing, the bride agreed to sit next to the groom 🙂

The Haldi Ceremony, traditionally called Pitthi

The Haldi Ceremony, traditionally called Pitthi.

Day 2

Next day in the morning, I got dressed at around 7:30 and went looking for the bride in her suite. She was getting ready for her pitthi (haldi ceremony) and wore a pretty yellow and pink saree. One of her friends and I did her hair and make up and clicked her pictures as we knew that after the ceremony starts we won’t get hold of her.

The ceremony started with the bride’s mother doing the honours. One by one women surrounded her and put haldi on her face starting with her feet first, then knees, then shoulders, next forehead and then face. This sequence is supposed to be followed by every person putting the haldi with crossed hands. I was the last one to do the same as I wanted to play more of holi and didn’t really care about the old ladies staring at me for doing the same. After the ceremony got over, I clicked some more of her haldi clad face pictures and she went to take a bath.

The Dora Palada Ceremony get up

The Dora Palada Ceremony get up.

Doli with the reception lehanga wrapped around a doll

Doli with the reception lehanga wrapped around a doll.

The next ceremony after pitthi was  dora palada (where the in-laws give  you stuff for you  to wear on the  wedding day and other  paraphernalia).  She changed into a  new blue and  yellow heavy saree and  again one of  her friends and I did her  make up and  hair. She was  supposed  to sit in  between all the ladies on the  in-laws  side and they laid out the gifts  beautifully packed in front of her. Her  wedding lehanga came in a beautifully  wrapped  doll sitting in a doli. She  bought her reception outfit from Zari,  Jaipur. After, receiving  gifts from her  in-laws side she got in her room with  us as frantically removed her  jewellery as we were late by 2 hours for the parlor visit to deck up for sangeet. She ran  down three floors with a saree so loosely worn I felt it would come down anytime. I was  running behind her in heels carrying her stuff and trying to keep pace with her.

The Sangeet Lehanga.

The Sangeet  lehanga

She was terribly tensed that the parlor lady will take a revenge on her by doing a terrible make up since she was so late. I couldn’t help but smile at her innocent looks when she said she wants to look her best on these two days. I told her she won’t have to compromise on anything. I will talk to the parlor lady. After we reached the parlor, I helped her change and she sat down for getting her hair and make up done. By the time, she was ready I too have changed in a white and dark purple colored silk lehanga. The bride looked amazingly pretty. She wore a pink and orange gota patti lehanga which she bought from Delhi.



We reached the resort on  time and the groom and the  bride walked together to the  place where  the sangeet ceremony was  organised. Both the families  performed on so many songs  and everybody from the age  of 6 to 60 danced. The bride  danced on Kailash Kher’s  Coke Studio piya ghar and Baalika Vadhu’s mahre hiwada. In the  end we again got some pictures clicked and sat down for dinner  with the bride and the groom. The groom became the victim of    salty fruit cream and was made to gulp down the entire bowl  without water. I was glad Pink was the bride.

Me with the Bride :)

Me with the Bride 🙂

Day 3

The next day there were no functions from the bride side, but she was supposed to sit with the groom in his mayara (where the groom’s uncle gives him gifts). The bride wore a yellow poshak (the traditional wear of the Rajput women in Rajasthan) and was looking absolutely stunning. The sitting area for lunch on the morning of the Reception is specially designed for the guests to sit and have their food instead of the regular buffet. The bride and groom also sit in the same area and have lunch together. If you have ever been to Rajasthan or even those Nakhrali dhani places in your city, you would definitely know how much you are made to eat by the hosts. In traditional language it is called Manwaar karna.

Morning of the Wedding

Morning of the Wedding

I finished having my lunch, and ran to  the bride’s room to take out her  wedding lehanga and jewellery so that  we can leave for parlor as soon as she is  done with the lunch. After lunch, she  again came running to the room, threw  open her jewellery, panicking at the  thought of not getting ready on time as  her phere were scheduled at 5 PM and it was already 3:30 and we  haven’t even left for the parlor. We were in such a hurry that there  was no time for me to pick my dress for the evening to change at the  parlor and thus, after a lot of hushing and running we sat in the car  and left for the parlor.

Almost ready Bride. Last moment touch up.

Almost ready Bride. Last moment touch up.

There she changed into her wedding outfit and sat down for make up and hair. I, in the meantime had nothing to do. So, I stared blankly and curiously at every other bride in the room taking out mental notes what kind of dresses we would be buying for Gappa’s wedding and what we should strictly not do. I also learnt that if you are the bride, then you should beforehand decide on how you want your hair to be done instead of leaving it on the parlor women. Anyways, so after staring at everybody in the room for an hour or so, I got up and started taking pictures of the bride in progress. In between staring and taking pictures and talking to her, I was continuously receiving calls from the bride’s father, brother, brother-in-law and I-don’t-know-who to get back as soon as possible because we were already late by an hour for the phere and the groom has reached with the baraat of course. I asked the parlor female to hurry up and after the bride was ready, I dialed everybody’s number to send a car for the bride for 20 minutes and nobody was ready to do the same. Apparently, everybody just got busy and decided to proceed with the wedding without the bride.  After a lot of dialing, scolding and shouting, a car was sent and we reached the resort at around 7:15. Only 15 minutes were left for the mohrat to end. Anyways, she was taken to the mandap and I ran towards my room to get ready.

Just Married :)

Just Married 🙂

Shaadi ke phere (going round and round)

Shaadi ke phere (going round and round)

Me Me Me :)

Me Me Me 🙂

One of the bride’s friends helped me get  ready as fast as I can. I reached  the mandap by 8:00 and more than half  of the rituals were already done with. I  wanted to click pictures from a very close angle, but couldn’t do so because all the four sides of the mandap were surrounded by people. I somehow managed to click a few. After everything was done, the bride and groom were taken back to their rooms and were brought back after 10 minutes or so after which they ascended their throne on the stage. The friends on the other hand, started exploring the food section. All of us sat down on a table, and ordered everything our dear bride had on the menu for her wedding. We ate like hippos and also laughed like them, for I remember people staring at us with disgusted eyes.

After the crowd was clear and only family members were left, we went onto the stage to get group pictures clicked. After the bride-groom lone photoshoot, they got down and proceeded for dinner. The best part was that after every function, she could sit down with us and have fun. People generally say that one does not get time to enjoy one’s own wedding. This was not at all true for Pink. She had lots and lots of fun, got time to sit down with friends and even got sloshed the night before the wedding to her heart’s content. And the most amazing part was that even the groom was with us 🙂

Chatting away all night after the wedding reception :)

Chatting away all night after the wedding reception 🙂

After the dinner, we all changed into comfy clothes and sat down  in a room with the bride and the groom joining us, remembering  everybody and everything we all have come across together as  friends. Everybody was glad that they attended the wedding for  who knows after this we all will be able to meet or not.  The vidaai was scheduled at 4 in the morning. Nobody realised and  it was 4AM. The bride got up to go to her room and change. We also  packed our stuff as everybody was supposed to leave for the  railway station at 5. She cried and made us cry as well 😦

However, these were memories worth a lifetime. Witnessing your  best friend getting married made me realize that we are reaching  the age where we don’t know what lies ahead of us, the future is  totally and absolutely unpredictable. After school, we knew we will  be going to college. During college, we knew we want to go for a job  or anything else. But, what after we get what all we have planned for? I guess this age which we are living now, is the scariest of all.

I hope Pink enjoys her married life as much as she believes in enjoying everything that comes her way. I wish her all the happiness in the world, everything that god can afford and everything she desires 🙂


10 thoughts on “Band Baja Bride :)

  1. Rajasthani weddings are so vibrant!! I loved the dresses of the bride as well as you 🙂

    The bride was late by 2 hours for the pheras :O Lucky you guys that you reached on time! During my time, I had a dress change and was late by 10 minutes and the folks started hyperventilating 🙄

    • Yes, Rajasthani weddings are very colorful 🙂
      Thank you 🙂
      We were scolded at the very entrance for getting late. But, then it is okay. How can she hurry up and get ready quickly on her wedding? Who does that? *rolling eyes* 😛
      Ohh just by 10 minutes, I am telling you, you should have taken more time 😀

  2. What a lovely post, the best thing about weddings in the kind of hustle bustle with so many people around, so much that when it gets over, you feel emptiness around. Pink looks like a doll in every single pic,her dresses are all princess like, convey all my best wishes to her! 🙂

  3. ayushchh

    Beautiful Post !!!:D
    While reading the post it feels so lively and one can imagine the actual seen happening.
    Best Wishes for Pink.May God bless her with New Happy Life.
    Cheers to your Friendship.

    • Hi Jyoti,
      I am sorry for the late reply. I am sure there are a lot of shops selling the same. Just make sure that the dupatta is either made out of pure shiffon or pure georgette, if you do not wish to buy cotton. 🙂 Let me know if you need any help. I am not from Mumbai, so I can’t name the shops. But, I would be glad to help any which ways 🙂

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